When my husband and I first started dating, I used to overthink every single text I sent him. I’d type something out, delete it, retype it, and ask my best friend to read it over before I hit send. Looking back, I didn’t need to stress so much, because the texts that made the biggest impression weren’t the perfectly crafted ones, they were the honest ones that showed I was thinking about him.
These days I still love sending him a text that makes him smile in the middle of his workday, and I’ve picked up a lot along the way about what actually lands. If you want to keep the spark alive over text, whether you’re just starting to date someone or you’ve been together for years, here are fifty texts broken down by mood, so you can find exactly the right one for the moment.
Flirty Texts to Send Him
These are the texts I reach for when I want him thinking about me the rest of the day. They’re not over the top, just a little suggestive, enough to plant an idea in his head without giving too much away right off the bat.
- I can’t stop thinking about the way you looked at me last night.
- Just so you know, you’ve been on my mind all day and it’s very distracting.
- If you keep smiling at me like that, I’m not going to be able to control myself.
- I have plans for you later, and none of them involve talking.
- You have no idea what you do to me when you wear that shirt.
- I’m sitting here thinking about your hands and getting absolutely nothing done.
- Come over here and make me regret nothing.
- I think about kissing you way more than I probably should admit.
- You’re the reason I keep checking my phone with a stupid grin on my face.
- I dare you to come find me tonight.
Sweet and Romantic Texts
Sometimes the most meaningful thing you can send isn’t flirty at all, it’s just honest. These are the texts I send when I want him to know how deeply I appreciate him, no games involved.
- I just want you to know how lucky I feel to love you.
- You make ordinary days feel like something worth remembering.
- I fall for you a little more every single day, even the boring ones.
- Thank you for being exactly who you are, I wouldn’t change a thing.
- You’re my favorite person to come home to.
- I love the way you make me feel safe just by being near me.
- Being loved by you is the best part of my life.
- I hope you know how proud I am of you, today and every day.
- You’re the calm in every storm, and I’m so grateful for you.
- I still get butterflies thinking about our first date.
- Loving you feels easy, even when everything else doesn’t.
- You make me want to be a better version of myself.
Playful and Teasing Texts
My husband and I use humor as a love language, and these texts are proof. They’re the kind you send when you want to make him laugh out loud in the middle of a meeting.
- Just a reminder that you married up, or dated up, whichever applies to us right now.
- I let you win that argument earlier, you’re welcome.
- Warning, I’m in a very kissable mood tonight.
- You snore, and I still think you’re cute, so consider yourself lucky.
- I’m plotting something for you later and you’re going to like it.
- Don’t get too comfortable, I’m coming to steal all the blankets tonight.
- I’ve decided you’re stuck with me forever, hope that’s okay.
- You’re annoyingly charming and I hate how much it works on me.
- Guess who’s thinking about you and being extremely productive because of it. Not me.
- I ranked all your quirks today and somehow they’re all still my favorites.
Texts for When You’re Missing Him
There’s nothing wrong with letting him know you’re thinking of him when he’s not around. These texts are simple, sincere, and always seem to make him smile when he checks his phone.
- The bed feels too big without you in it.
- I keep reaching for my phone to text you and then realizing I already did.
- Today would be so much better if you were here to make it better.
- I miss your laugh more than I thought I would.
- Counting down until I get to see your face again.
- Everything reminds me of you today, in the best way.
- I could really use one of your hugs right about now.
- It’s weird how quiet the house feels when you’re not in it.
- Hurry home, I have so much to tell you.
- Missing you is my new full time job apparently.
Bold Texts to Send When You’re Feeling Confident
Every once in a while I like to skip the subtlety altogether and just say what I mean. These texts are for the days when you’re feeling confident and want him to know exactly what’s on your mind.
- I want you, all of you, tonight.
- Clear your schedule, you’re mine later.
- I’ve been thinking about exactly what I want to do to you.
- Don’t make plans after work, I have some of my own for us.
- I’m not asking, I’m telling you to come home early.
- You should probably brace yourself for how much I plan to distract you tonight.
- I want to be the last thing on your mind before you fall asleep and the first thing when you wake up.
- Meet me at the door, I’m not waiting one more second to kiss you.
- I’m feeling bold tonight, and you’re the reason why.
At the end of the day, the best texts aren’t about finding the perfect words, they’re about being honest with how you feel and letting him know he’s on your mind. My husband still tells me some of my clumsiest, most unedited texts are the ones that mean the most to him, because they’re real. So don’t overthink it too much. Pick a few of these that sound like you, add your own personal touch, and send them off. A little bit of effort over text can go a long way in keeping that connection strong.
